Before becoming parents all talk of toileting are pretty much taboo, but as soon as that baby is in your arms it seems to become a natural part of the conversation. My life has been so uninteresting lately that when hubby asks what sort of day I have had, I proceed to describe contents of the kids nappies.
I have refrained from talking all things toileting on the blog, however we are having toilet problems of the number 2 variety and a visit to the doctor last night has left me even more frustrated.
Isaac (5) has been soiling his pants for a few weeks. We have been trying not to make a big deal of it and not shout and get cross but it has got to the stage where we are getting phone calls back from the school. He did it 5 times yesterday.
All research by me points to encopresis, but when I mentioned this to the Doctor yesterday he told me that it was ridiculous and its all behavioural and we need to find out why he is doing it……..hardly supportive. In the Doctors Isaac was fine, allowed him to feel his tummy but as soon as we walked out he did it again and I just don’t know what to do.
We are having other issues with his behaviour too – we had a meeting with the school this week to discuss it. He is not a naughty boy per say, but he will act up to make sure he gets kept in at playtime. They are investigating the reasons for this as all things point to the fact that something has happened and he doesn’t want to play outside. He used to love playtime and is perfectly happy when we are out and about or at Beavers and is normally a very sociable child.
The other thing he has started doing is not listening to adults. If he knows he has done something wrong he will cover his ears, start shouting and run off. It can take some time to talk him around, normally after he realises he has to own up and admit what he has done wrong. His other defence is comedy and he will try and make you laugh to get out of whatever he has done wrong.
It does seem to me that these two things are linked, but all efforts to talk to him just don’t seem to be getting anywhere. The only thing he says is he hates school, but when you ask him why he cannot answer.
Have you had any experience of encopresis or behaviour like this?
How did you deal with it?