It has been a day we have been equally dreading / looking forward since last October when we submitted Isaac’s secondary school choices.
Like all good parents, we trawled around half a dozen of our local schools, attended head teacher talks and got a feel for his preferred choices. For Isaac, there was one school that stood out head and shoulders above the rest and he has had his heart set on attending this school ever since.
He completed the entrance “banding” test and I filled out the required forms, putting his chosen school as his 1st choice and a begrudging 2nd and 3rd choice, as required by our local authority.
On 1st March at 10am, we finally got to which school Isaac had been allocated……..it wasn’t our 1st choice, or even our 2nd.
I have to admit I was devastated and worried about how I was going to break the news to Isaac. The school we were allocated is our closest one, but also one that I feel failed his older brother and has also recently entered special measures.
Isaac didn’t take the news well at first and it is hard seeing your child so disappointed, but having spoken to his friends and discovering 50% of his class will also be going to his allocated school, he seems more positive about it now.
We have taken advice about what to do next and are hopeful that things might change as we have appealed the decision, but are also prepared that Isaac may not be going to his first choice school.
What to do if you don’t get the school you wantS
- Keep calm and even if you’re feeling devastated, don’t let your child pick up on your worries and stress.
- Accept the school place you have been offered, you can always decline the offer at a later date.
- Ask to go on the waiting list for your school of choice. Places can come up all the way up to the beginning of term.
- Appeal the decision. Each school is different, so check the procedures on their website and make sure you have a solid reason for appealing before you start the process and ensure it is done within the correct timeframe.
- Look into other schools, visit them and speak to other parents who send their children there.
From having three older children, I know that secondary school isn’t all plain sailing, however, the kids get out of school what they put in and will do well if they work hard, which I am confident Isaac will do.
Did you get the school your child wanted on National Offer Day?