So many people believe that long-distance relationships never work out, regardless of what can be done. You may find that your family always try and discourage it and that your best friends even tell you not to take it too seriously in case you get your heart broken. At the end of the day, nobody says that it is going to be easy, as the extra distance may make you feel feelings of loneliness, not to mention that you won’t be able to hold the other person’s hand or share a meal together. That being said, there are ways for you to try and make it work, if you know which steps you need to take.
Avoid Too Much Communication
It’s unwise for you to be overly “sticky” when it comes to your other half. You don’t need to communicate for 12 hours a day just to try and keep your relationship going. So many couples think that they need to compensate for long distance by just trying to do more, but you may end up making things even worse. You need to remember that less is more. If you end up spamming, then you may end up exhausting yourself. It’s about messaging at the right moments because when you do, every message will feel that bit more special and you won’t feel as though you are being constantly reminded about the fact that you aren’t together.
Everything is an Opportunity
At the end of the day, if you want to live together then you first need to see if you are able to live apart. View your long-distance relationship as being a learning opportunity, or as a test of your love for one another. There’s a saying that real gold is able to withstand the test of fire, so if you believe that your long-distance relationship is pulling you apart, then believe that after the whole experience, you will be stronger for it. If you want kids together then it may be worth talking about this as well, so you know where you stand. If you are unable to have children naturally then an IVF procedure may help.
Set some Ground Rules
If you want this relationship to work, then you need to be clear about what you expect from one another and you also need to set some ground rules as well. For example, do you want to be exclusive? Are you comfortable with the other person going on dates when you are unable to see each other for long periods of time? The more open you can be here, the better so you are both on the same page.
Communicate
Make sure that you greet each other every morning and every night. This could be a simple text saying good morning, or a night-time message. Either way, this may seem mundane but it is one of the best ways to make sure that your communication is never going to falter. It is also helpful to tell the other person about what is going on in your life as well, so that they can give you comfort when you need it and so that they can stay updated.